You are responsible for what you say to your partner. Your boyfriend may misunderstand or misinterpret some of your words. There are a few most commonly used phrases that women should never use if they want to have a good relationship with their men.
‘You never/always do this to me.’ As a matter of fact, this phrase is very aggressive. You blame your partner for something he did ages ago. This does not mean he did it on purpose. He might have never done the same thing ever again yet you keep reminding him about his mistake. Be more tolerant and gentle. Do not accuse your partner of what he does or does not do to you.
‘I wish you could change and become _________.’ Your man has his own character and nature. If he becomes different, then you might not need him any longer. You fell in love with him when he was himself and not someone else. Motivate your partner. But do not tell him he is not good enough.